The Lemon Tree Coaching

Bonus Episode - When Your Past Isn’t Done Being Felt Yet

Dr. Allison Sucamele

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Sometimes an old ache returns - a memory you thought you’d outgrown, a feeling you believed you’d healed, a reaction that surprises you. And the first thought many of us have is, “Why am I still dealing with this? I thought I was past it.”

But emotional reactivation isn’t regression. It’s capacity.

In this short bonus episode, Dr. Allison Sucamele breaks down the psychology behind why old wounds resurface just when life starts to feel steadier. Drawing on insights from trauma research and nervous system science, she explores how healing happens in layers, not all at once, and why your body often waits until you’re finally safe enough to process the deeper truths.

If something from your past is bubbling up again, it doesn’t mean you’re going backward. It means your system trusts you now. You have more bandwidth, more resilience, more internal safety than you once did.

This episode is your gentle reminder that you’re not unraveling - you’re unfolding.

You’ll learn:
🌿 Why the nervous system releases emotions in stages
🌿 How to understand emotional residue without self-judgment
🌿 What it really means when old patterns, memories, or wounds reappear
🌿 How to meet these moments with curiosity instead of shame
🌿 Why this is a sign of integration—not failure

If this bonus episode brings you comfort or clarity, feel free to share it with someone who’s been hard on themselves for “feeling things again.” They might need this reminder too.

And if you missed Episode #144, The Library of You: Integrating Every Chapter, go back and give it a listen—it pairs beautifully with today’s message.

Take what serves you, leave what doesn’t, and keep blooming in your own time. 💛🌿

Disclaimer:
This episode is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are struggling, in emotional distress, or concerned for your safety, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. If you are in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 in the United States for immediate support. You are not alone.

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