The Lemon Tree Coaching
Welcome to The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast—where emotional depth meets grounded psychology. Hosted by Dr. Allison Sucamele, this podcast is a sanctuary for anyone ready to do the inner work, face their shadow, and cultivate a life that feels authentic, aligned, and alive.
Each episode explores the psychology behind emotions, relationships, nervous system healing, and self-awareness. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, burnout, betrayal, people-pleasing, or the desire for deeper meaning, you'll find thoughtful reflections, symbolic storytelling, and powerful insights to help you bloom—one truth at a time.
Grab a cup of tea, tune in, and come home to yourself.
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The Lemon Tree Coaching
# 126 - Are You in a Control Drama Right Now?
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What exactly are control dramas—and why do they have such a tight grip on our relationships and behavior?
In this week’s episode, we dive into the unconscious tactics we use to get our emotional needs met: manipulation, guilt-tripping, playing the victim, intimidation, or emotional withdrawal. Known as control dramas, these patterns often begin in childhood and are rooted in deep-seated fears of rejection, abandonment, or powerlessness.
Together, we’ll explore:
- The 4 major control dramas, inspired by the work of Dr. Caroline Myss
- Why we unconsciously fall into these patterns—and how they protect us
- How control dramas impact intimacy, trust, and emotional safety in our relationships
- Practical strategies for self-awareness, vulnerability, and boundary-setting
- Healing resources from Nedra Glover Tawwab, Brené Brown, and Cloud & Townsend
✨ Whether you’ve been on the receiving end of a control drama—or you’ve unknowingly used one to cope—this episode offers insight and tools for healing, growth, and cultivating relationships rooted in truth, not control.
📚 Mentioned in this episode:
- Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can by Dr. Caroline Myss
- Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
- Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
- The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
- Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
🎧 Listen to Episode #17 for a deeper dive into boundary-setting.
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📞 Need support? You’re not alone.
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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please reach out to a qualified therapist or counselor for support.
